How To Let Go Of Someone You Love

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If you are over twelve years of age, you have had to figure out how to let go of someone you love at some point in your life. Are you there now? Are you struggling to move forward?

Today’s quote is from Thich Nhat Hanh. He is a Buddhist monk, poet, teacher and peace activist. He said the following:

People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.

What you had, who you had, is very familiar. Even if it was bad, it was familiar. At one point, you saw a future with this person. At one point, you felt like you were walking on air. You felt like there was no one better on the planet. You were happy. You were joyful and you could not stop smiling.

Now, however, that happiness and that joy is gone. It has been replaced by sadness and suffering. You are now in a dysfunctional relationship. So how to let go of someone you love is the predominant question in your mind right now. The thing to remember is that it is not working any more. The relationship that used to be so good and so wonderful is not either of those. It’s unhappy. You spend more time being unhappy and worried than you do happy and joyful. You spend more time being upset at that person than you do seeing the good and loving them. You’ve done everything you can and it’s still not working.

It’s time to embrace the new and the unfamiliar. You have to take a step into the unknown. Hanging on to the old and familiar is going to continue to perpetuate the suffering. Picture a cord between you and that person. Picture yourself taking a cutting instrument of some kind and cutting that cord. Every time you think about that person, snip that cord. It’s much harder than it sounds when you start this process. However, if you stick with it, in 30 to 45 days, you will feel a sense of freedom. Try it. You have nothing to lose except misery.

You have just received the best exercise on how to let go of someone you love that I, personally, have ever found. I’ve done it. I’ve recommended it. If you stay diligent, it will work for you as well. New love can only come when you release the suffering and open up to potential and newness. I wish you and your heart peace!

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BENJAMIN April 26, 2015 at 11:13 pm



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